I have gotten a few people make comments to me about how perfect my life is. And well, it’s pretty good, but my life isn’t all unicorns and rainbows (contrary to what it may look like from my Instagram feed). I have had some really big challenges that I don’t always choose to share on social media since I feel like it’s often a private thing to experience and overcome with close friends and family. That being said, I have found a big part of happiness is perspective. Be positive and put that attitude out into the world and it often follows you. It is easier said than done at times, but I often find when I am going through a rough time, helping others or doing something kind for others not only makes me feel better, but brings good karma my way. When you find that you have the power to be optimistic, you discover your power to be happy. That, my friends, is true joy.Read More
Find something beautiful in everything you do. We have been sick, sleep deprived, and miserable for a week now, but life is too short not to find beauty in the best AND worst of times. Even if it’s something as simple as naptime cuddles. <3 I’ve had a lot of people tell me lately that my life looks so perfect from the outside. Far from it, but I strive to project the positive, which in turn makes my outlook more positive I think. So take time to focus on the good and beautiful things in your life.Read More
A few weeks ago I came to a crossroads — a life decision I didn’t know how to make.
To skate or not to skate.
I started figure skating when I was six and never really stopped. To this day I don’t think I’ve gone more than a month without time on the ice, and even then it was for a broken toe. But as I get older and older, this hobby, nay, lifestyle is harder and harder to fit into my life. I am busy, yet I still find myself making time for this sport, no matter how inconvenient it is to fit around my schedule. There were many factors which I won’t bore you with, but it was a big decision. My skating partner and I are only a few tests away from getting a gold medal in free dance, but it is a lot of effort, time and money if we aren’t able to finish. So last week we sat down to flesh it out and make a decision.
With the way it has completely shaped who I am, it simply feels impossible to give it up. Even beyond the fact that it lead me to some of the most amazing friends, has given me almost two decades of regular exercise, and has provided me with incredible opportunities, skating has taught me so many life lessons that relate to lots other areas of my life.
1. When you fall, get back up and try it again.
2. Perfection is unrealistic, but is something you should always strive for.
3. Take competition seriously, but don’t let it ruin your day.
4. Set big goals so you have a place to aim.
5. A big, cheeseball smile goes a long way. Fake it until you make it.
6. The best results come when your blades are sharp.
7. Always warm up and stretch.
8. When you’re having an “off” day, sometimes it’s best to just walk away and try again tomorrow.
9. Most of your obstacles or inabilities are a mental game. Success or failure — it’s all in your head.
10. There is nothing more rewarding than facing huge challenges, working your tail off and performing your best followed by a big round of applause.
Ultimately, I decided to I just wasn’t ready for that last performance. I’m going for the Gold, baby. Here’s to the rink — my home, my gym, my playground, my meeting place, my mentor.Read More
The new year is upon us and I am fresh and motivated for great things. Some people say resolutions are all in your head or that humans are predisposed to think optimistically around the new year for no reason. That’s why we write out our goals and changes for the new year and do silly things like eat pork and sauerkraut (it’s an old family tradition, I think from the German side). I personally say I’ll take it, even if it isn’t “real.” Happiness is all in your head, so if I can convince myself to make goals for the better, why not?
So today I’m living that. I knew how badly I needed a mental break and one of my goals is to stay in tune with my body so I don’t overwork myself. I spent half the day lazying around the house with my husband writing our goals for the year, made a good breakfast, went on a jog with my pup and simple enjoyed the day. I know how normal that sounds, but I generally do about a million things at once, so that much relaxation is unusual.
Writing goals can be both exciting and scary. It’s hard to commit to some things knowing once they are written down, you feel like you fail if you don’t follow through. Today my husband and I came up with some individual goals and some as a couple. I like to throw some what I call “novelty” goals in there, just as things to try in the new year. I won’t share them all, as some are personal, but…
here are a few of my goals for 2012.
- Read 25 books (have recommendations? I’d love them)
- Make a recipe from each of my cookbooks
- Try a new recipe or make up my own one night a week
- Take better care of my skin
- Create an Etsy page to start selling my artwork
- Keep my inbox clean
- Learn how to sew a wall tapestry
- Exercise 5 days a week
- Eat 3-5 servings of vegetables everyday
- Create at least two projects a month that I pin on Pinterest
- Grow a garden
- Clear our basement and donate stuff we don’t use
- Have a date night with the hubs once a week
- Take a photo all 366 days
- Blog at least once a week
What are your goals for the new year?Read More
2012 is going to be the best year of my life so far.
The Mayan calendar says the world ends in December 21, 2012, as do many other cultures. I’ll be honest, the rational side of me thinks there’s no way — it’s sort of like Y2K all over again where all the hype happened for no apparent reason. But there’s that little superstitious part of me that kinda freaks out about it. Once I let myself watch a whole documentary about the whole thing. That was a bad idea.
As I’ve mentioned before, I have this weird thing with numbers. Not entirely sure how it started, but I’ve done this thing since I was a kid where certain numbers were “good numbers” and I’d add numbers together to determine if dates and such were acceptable. I could go on and on about the whole thing (as my friends could tell you), but I’ll spare you (for today). Anyway, my two favorite numbers are 21 and 12, so the predicted apocalypse on 12-21-12 doesn’t help with the irrational nerves over it.
That’s why I’ve decided 2012 is going to be the best year of my life. Like the idea behind “The Secret,” I think you can will things to be what you’re looking for by your attitude towards them. It’s all a matter of hard work and positive thinking. I read this article the other day about common life regrets and how happiness is a choice. So why not live 2012 like it’s our last year? I really don’t fancy the world ending when I haven’t even hit 30, but will it really hurt to make as many of my dreams a reality as possible?
No, I’m not going to blow all my money or do anything too crazy. Just going to spend my time wisely — soak up every moment of beauty, visit with loved ones, work hard and play hard. Do I really think the world will end? I really hope not. But just in case, let’s make 2012 the best year ever.
Here’s to a happy new year and many great things to look back on in 2013.Read More
When I was a kid walking home from elementary school, I always used to play this game with myself where I’d close my eyes and see how long I dared to walk before I got nervous and had to look. As lame as it may seem, it’s hard to let yourself be vulnerable like this — walking forward without being 100% sure where you’re going.
In so many ways this is a metaphor for my life. Like many women I know, I have this need to be not only watching, but planning every step ahead. It’s totally scary to let go, but it’s sort of liberating to just take a moment to close my eyes and let life happen no matter what lies ahead. When you don’t have a set path, it can also help your stress with being “in the right place” when the right place is right now.
Now when I am on my walks with miss Daisy I still find myself playing this little game. Like life, she’s a bitch, so it’s perfect training for the real thing. Try it. I just take a deep breath and hold on with trust she’ll guide me the right way. The first few seconds are fine, but as I even go 6-10 seconds in, I find myself freaking out. Just push through it. You’ll find you are so much more aware of your surroundings when you just live in the moment, sun shining through your eyelids and breeze blowing through your hair. And when you can appreciate the moment, there’s little room to stress about where you “should” be.